If your man just broke up with you, missing him is agonizing. You just want to talk to him, hear his voice. You will settle for a friendly chat just to ease your pain. First of all, contact with an ex is detrimental to getting back together, but that’s another issue. If you talk to him, be his friend, you are actually easing his transition and making yours difficult. If you want him back, you must not be his friend. Let me explain why.
I know a woman who insisted that if she remained friends with her ex, eventually he would see the error of her ways. He would realize how cool he really was and he would come back to her. So they remained friends, for about 2 months. He felt comfortable that she was okay and moved on with his life. Two months after this friendship, guess what? He’s dating someone new and he seems pretty serious. Being her friend failed, she did not get her man back.
All this woman did was ease his transition and help him move forward with ease. He never had a chance to miss her. The romance ended, but she remained his friend, so he never felt the loss. To get a man back, he has to feel pain and loss. Usually this doesn’t happen right away with men. It takes a while, they process a breakup differently.
So since he never felt pain or loss, he never missed her because she was there, his faithful friend. Wow, the best of both worlds. You can keep the old girlfriend as a friend and look for an exciting new romance with another. This happens almost every time you remain friends with an ex.
Look at it like this. He left you. He made his bed. Now there you are making everything comfortable for him. It’s like giving him an extra pillow, extra blankets, warming and warming him in this new freedom bed he made. Why the hell would I leave him and come back to you? It will not. This is no way to get your man back.
If a man abandons you but wants to remain a friend or if you think that being his friend will win him back, think again. It’s like telling him it’s okay to leave you, and it really isn’t. He gave up the right to have you as a friend, he gave up all your rights when he put your heart aside. He made his bed, if you want him to come back, let him lie down on it and feel the loss completely. If you want him back, avoid being his friend.
