“My boyfriend left me for his ex,” the woman said, shaking her head in disbelief. It’s humiliating and painful enough when your boyfriend leaves you, but when it’s so you can reconnect with his old girlfriend, it cuts you to your emotional core. You feel like you’re living on borrowed time with him and you wonder if every moment he spent with you he was thinking about her. As much as you know that the logical thing is to wash your hands and walk away, you can’t. Your heart won’t let you. You love him and you are convinced that he feels the same way about you. If that sounds like the story of your life right now, don’t feel sorry for yourself another moment. You have to focus on what you can do to get her back with you and away from her.
If your boyfriend left you for his ex, don’t try to convince him that he made the wrong decision. You know he has, but trying to talk him out of it will only make you look desperate in his eyes. Every time a woman begs a man to accept her or speaks ill of another woman in an effort to win her heart, she devalues herself. You know that you are the best option for him, so there is no better way to convince him than to show him.
Instead of taking the obvious approach of calling him all the time and reminding him why he left her, show him the mistake he was leaving you with. The best way to do this is to show your boyfriend that you are mature and emotionally capable of handling rejection on a scale like this. It is very difficult to accept that your man left you and ran with the woman he was with before he met you, but you have to accept it to get him back. In other words, you should do the opposite of what he expects you to do.
Every man is driven by the challenges that come in his life. This is why men are so captivated by sports and why they go after specific women. If you throw yourself at your boyfriend’s mercy and beg him to leave his ex for you, you’re killing his attraction to you. However, if you smile sweetly, tell him you only want what’s best for him, and return to the dating pool, he’ll be desperate trying to win you back. Become the woman he can no longer have and you will be the woman he wants. Male psychology has shown that to be the case, so use that knowledge to your advantage.
