Ten ways to identify a player

Identifying a player is never an easy task, sometimes these people are so good at their game and so fluent that some of them really believe what they say. They don’t necessarily ‘lie’ because if they get caught, it’s game over. But they have to outsmart that. Acting genuinely and honestly gives them a greater chance to secure whoever their prey is and to keep it for as long as they want. Some people do not have problems with the players, everything is fair in the game of love. But there are others who are genuinely looking for more than what these players can provide. The sooner you can spot a player, the sooner you can run in the other direction and avoid wasting time and energy. Being with a player is an exciting and exciting experience. However, it is one of those experiences that one only needs to experience once and they know what it is about. So for those who are still wet behind the ears on dating, here are 10 rules for identifying a player:

1. Calls you affectionate from the start

At first this may seem sweet and innocent, but this is a technique to lure you in early on. Players try to soften your defenses. When they do this, you will let them in and be more willing to follow their schedule. Exchanging these verbal nicknames gives an illusion of closeness, making you feel that you can trust that person more and develop an emotional bond with them. The stronger the emotional bond, the greater the chance that they will fulfill your desires and the longer they can keep you close. To avoid being drawn in, cut it off early on (you’ll hear it repeated frequently throughout this article) or walk away and keep your guard up. And by keeping your guard up, I mean constantly evaluating what they are saying and judging whether it is truthful or not. Actions speak louder than words, so always pay attention to their behavior when they say such sweet things.

2. Try to hit a home run as soon as possible

I think this one is obvious. Everyone knows that sometimes the name of the game in dating is just SEX. With the players it is no different, the players are fed by having sex with as many partners as possible. It’s a feeling of conquest and presents them with an exciting challenge every time they find new prey. An important difference with the sexual desire of any normal person is that the players are confident and aggressive. They know that they have a high sexual factor and they will do it from the beginning. The sooner they can dominate and get away with their prize, the sooner they can move on to the next victim. Players will have the opportunity to do the action even if the mood has not developed for it.

3. Talk about different sexual fantasies that are trying to get you to participate.

Now this can look exciting and stimulating for your sex life with the gamer. But again, players thrive on subjugating their chosen victims to make them feel special or different, and sharing special sexual escapades together. Getting your victim to agree to your sexual agenda fuels his feeling of dominance in the “relationship.” For some, it is not even a physical pleasure, but the feeling of taking home the prize, in the same way that an athlete brings home trophies or a fisherman brings refrigerators full of fish. Ask any player their number and they will have memorized it, since they are with their trusted friends who know their lifestyle, they will have endless stories of their experiences. Sharing those stories is another way they develop their ego and confidence in their game, as they gain reassurance or praise from others.

4. The phone never leaves your side

Needless to say. Gamers and serial players alike have prospects everywhere – some are wide enough to capture anyone they are drawn to remotely. Of course, their phones are going off the hook, they spread their net widely, and anyone who gets caught is thrown in with the others. And, since you can’t control when these prospects are going to call or text, keeping your phone close gives them a chance to hide others from you. Hiding is not necessarily a lie and, in the player’s eyes, is honest with you. If you are the person who is with the player during the day, they will most likely keep their phone quiet and out of your sight, so they can give the illusion that they are focused on you and there is no other person. As long as they fuel the prospect’s illusion of being the focus, again, they can keep them right where they need them.

5. Disappear for a day or two without notice.

This again goes back to reason n. 4. A true gamer has only 24 hours a day like everyone else, so in order to fit in with his maximum casualties, he must work fast and smart. One way to do this is to give everyone a “day” of concentration and attention. Maybe keep you lying in bed wooing you and calling you ‘babe’. Regardless, they’ll pull that trick out of your hat. Doing this makes them more valuable to their prey and less likely to be revealed and kicked to the curb, which most people would. They have studied thousands of people of the opposite sex and know certain behaviors, and will adapt to them. Regardless of what you need them to be (up to a point), they will play that role to make sure you re-master and meet your needs. This disappearance is also a test in their book to see how long they can keep you close, if they know that you will let them get away with it and they still need you. They will hold you and these days of ‘disappearance’ can come more often.

6. Very charming and great with compliments.

If they weren’t charming, they wouldn’t get anywhere. Flattery gets you everywhere with people. Feed a person’s ego and build it, and they will be putty in your hands. The better the prey feels around the player, the more it will stick to it. It goes without saying who doesn’t want someone to make them feel like a million dollars. Giving this false sense of security gives the player a greater chance of getting what they want from their prospect. And some of the players can be very sincere in their compliments, what sets them apart is that they know how to use it to fulfill their hidden agenda. So take each compliment with a grain of salt, after all, who knows how many other people say the same thing too. There are only a few ways to say ‘you’re sexy’ to someone. This skill is easy to master, especially for a player who studies the behavior of the opposite sex.

7. Don’t really take the time to get to know yourself as a person.

This is obvious, and this also applies to gamers and regular daters. If they want one thing and they want only one thing, the goal is the only thing they focus on. It doesn’t matter all the fluff on who’s side you are. Allowing themselves the opportunity to learn more about you gives them the chance that they may find you interesting or start caring about you. Keeping it at a distance (or even longer) is what gives them their control, if their victim is one to hold longer than others, it is better to ‘teach’ their prey that there is a line they must not cross to share. or ask for his life. They may be silent when discussing their life or they may just nod and move on to the next topic, something THEY want to talk about (again, this fuels their need for dominance). You are a challenge to them, and the more they ignore who you are as to be, the less guilty they will feel when they leave.

8. You don’t really share much of your life and personal interests.

This defense mechanism is very powerful. It sends you the message that what they share is under lock and key, giving them 1) the feeling that their business is too important to open up to you and 2) they don’t want to give you a reason to stay longer than necessary. Most players don’t get like that because they like to break hearts, the thrill of chasing and catching is so much more important to them. If they can avoid a big scene and a confrontation, the cleanest breakup allows them to escape to other prospects. If they’re serial players and they’re going down the list like dominoes, the last thing they want is a psycho or stalker. After all, they can’t just change their phone number all the time, that would give them a waste of potential ‘callbacks’ should the occasion arise that they needed them.

9. You like to dominate the relationship.

This again goes back to the player’s need to feed his ego. The more they control the “relationship,” the more they can push and pull when needed. They might love you one day, they might not love you another day, just depending on how they feel they should play their game. Doing this allows them to direct the relationship to fulfill their hidden agenda. They may cut it off to keep you guessing and feeling confused. Then he turns around again and comes back casually. As long as they can get away with this behavior, they will. But once you put your foot down and they know you are not tolerating their gamer lifestyle, they will break up with you and move on to the next person (or even the other person they have been around).

10. He does not introduce you or want to introduce you to anyone important in his life.

This is similar to not sharing his life with you. They don’t want you to get attached to family or vice versa. If you become a cool boy / girl in the eyes of the important people in your life, you are more likely to stay in the player’s life beyond the time they need for you. Having fewer accessories means less luggage to keep the player flying when the need arises. The player does not want to see the propsect in any light other than the one that serves its purpose. Attachments generate possible conflict when they begin to see the victim as more valuable with their feelings.

Facing a player is a difficult game, especially if you are good at what you do and have been doing it for a while. But if you are prepared and keep your eyes open to detect his ‘gamer’ behavior and don’t be fooled because it is a unique behavior only towards you, get in the ring! Players are not unstoppable and there is nothing worse for them than having a prospect cut off. Do what you have to do with them, whatever the purpose you feel you need them for, be it physical, emotional, camaraderie, honing your gamer skills, etc. But when it’s time to cut, be the first to jump and your fellow player will drop to his knees. Players feed off their ego and that is ego failure to the nth degree. Have fun and keep playing!

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