If you miss your ex and have been staying up at night thinking, “I have to figure out how to stop my divorce!” there are a few things you can do to give yourself a second chance. The first thing to do is realize that it will take effort, honesty, and being open with your true emotions. If you’re ready to share exactly how you feel with your ex, you’re off to a good start.
The first thing to do if the separation is new is to give the relationship some space. Don’t be rude and of course if there are children minimal contact will be necessary. But you need to give your ex some time to miss you and think about you. This is especially true if your ex broke up with you.
If you’ve been apart for a while, you need to find a time when you can be alone with your ex and things will be cool. She can express her feelings calmly and sincerely. If you cry, it’s okay. Remember, there is no reason for you to yell or yell or even plead your case. All of this makes you less desirable and will shut down any positive communication. If things get too emotional, make sure your desire to try has really been shared, and end the conversation until a day or two later, when emotions have cooled down. Consider why you are here, reading this. You are asking someone to show you “how to stop my divorce.”
If you need to apologize, do it. Even if you already have it. Make sure your apology is genuine and sincere. Don’t apologize and then give an excuse as to why the thing you apologize for happened. Don’t suggest that your ex caused any trouble that you apologize for. He takes responsibility for yourself and offers your own apologies for your part of the problem. Look him in the eye. This is not the time to protect your emotions. If you want to get your family back, put in 100%.
If your ex suggests therapy, agree to go. Remember, you are willing to really try. Don’t ask for another chance if you’re not really willing to work on it. You may be able to end up with a better marriage than you ever imagined and never again have to say, “I wish someone would show me how to stop my divorce.”
