You can usually multitask while you think, but when your ex dumps you, there’s only one thing on your mind. You probably feel like you want him back, but at the same time you’re mad that he dumped you. You probably miss him being there, but at the same time you hate him for what he has done to you. The main thing here is that you are not going to forget about him right away, you need time to let the heartbreak heal.
Will it come back to you? You are probably hoping and praying that he becomes your boyfriend and lover once again. If this is the case, then you need to use all the weapons available to you. Don’t be desperate or needy to want him back, at least don’t let him see it. Otherwise, it could come back to you, but for the wrong reasons. Usually guilt and pity. Needless to say, a relationship built around that won’t last. He must come back to you by his own reasoning. He should feel that he needs to be in your company and not the other way around.
Here’s a little secret I want to share: Don’t do what you think you have to do to satisfy your need to get him back. Do the exact opposite instead. For example, if you want to contact him or just find out if he’s okay, don’t! Just completely ignore him so he thinks you don’t care. This is called the no contact method and it is an important part of getting your ex back in any situation.
This is going to have a profound effect on him: He will not be able to help himself and will be overwhelmed with curiosity about what you are doing. He might be thinking things like “I wonder what he’s doing? Where is he? Why does he keep hanging out all the time?” This will only lead him to try to solve these mysteries by contacting you.
Don’t worry, many girls think that ignoring their ex after a breakup will drive him further apart or even lose him: This is not the case. He’s not going to forget what you guys had, especially when you’re causing all this curiosity and mystery. Like I said before, he probably wants to contact you, so don’t be surprised if he does. Just keep a cool head and take it easy. Don’t show him how happy you are that he called you, and even he comes off as a bit standoffish and not really interested since you have better things to do to get on with your life.
Stick to the no contact rule as part of your action plan to get your ex back, and you’ll see firsthand just how powerful this tactic is in engaging your man’s curiosity and ultimately drawing him to you.
