I often hear from wives who worry that it is too late to get their husbands back. Sometimes, there has already been a separation or divorce. Or sometimes her husband has met someone else or has “moved on.” Other times, there has been infidelity or the wife has admitted that she has made some “big mistakes” that she is not sure she can overcome. These wives are often heartbroken thinking that it will be too late to save the marriage or win it back.
I believe that it is rarely too late. But often, you can’t trust luck or fate to get it back. Most of the time, it really helps to have a very deliberate and well thought out plan. I will discuss more about this matter in the following article.
Often times, it’s not too late to win your husband back (even when it seems like it is 🙂 Sometimes I contact wives who are about to give up on their husband or their marriage because they think the situation is hopeless and they are just trying to be realistic.
But, I have seen countless situations like this change. I have seen couples who were divorced and married to other people get back together. I’ve seen couples who couldn’t stand each other’s site turn it around. It doesn’t always happen at a certain time or immediately. But, it certainly can happen. And it happens more often when you don’t try too hard or make it too obvious that this is what you are trying to achieve. You have to remember that you are trying to attract him to you while making him think that it is his idea.
Getting your husband back when you’ve almost given up: I often suggest to wives that they will be more successful in getting their husbands back if they don’t make it very clear that this is what they are trying to do. The reason for this is that sometimes the more you push yourself into the situation, the less attractive you appear. The more you call, text, and act very dramatic when your husband is not receptive to this, the more your chances increase that he will view you negatively and then move even further away from you.
So sometimes the smart thing to do is to back off (and turn off) just a bit. And frankly, I suspect it’s easier to do this when things are looking their most dire. I didn’t really start to gain ground in getting my husband back until I literally almost gave up and returned to my hometown seeking the support of my family and friends.
It was only after he heard the silence that he began to wonder about me and therefore to think about me. And it wasn’t until he found out that I was trying to move on and have fun with my friends that he started to take a little interest again.
Wives sometimes tell me they don’t know if they have the ability to back off. Because they feel very desperate to get it back and they are very afraid that their time is running out. If this describes how you feel, ask yourself if your previous attempts to win him back have worked. Did calling, texting, introducing yourself, or trying to elicit their guilt or pity get you what you wanted? If not, maybe it’s time to try something new.
Sometimes when you realize you’ve reached the end of the road with your current strategy, it’s easier to throw caution aside and wonder how much worse it could be if you gave yourself permission to approach this from another angle. . Sometimes it helps to ask yourself what’s the worst that can happen. Because if you already fear that you’re about to lose it forever or that it’s too late to get it back, there may not be much to lose if you try something new.
Win it back using your curiosity combined with focusing on the positive: This is where many women, at least in my opinion, go wrong. They are tempted to dwell on the things that will take you away from them instead of pushing you towards them.
They want to convince him that he was wrong. They want to entice him to “work” on his problems. They want to make you feel jealous, pity, anger, or guilty. But what they don’t realize (and what I didn’t realize for a long time) is that focusing on the negative causes him to associate the resulting negative feeling toward you and the marriage. This will sometimes only make his situation worse.
It is often best if you allow time and distance to help your cause rather than worsen it. You want to give him time to wonder what you’re doing. And, when he thinks of you, hears from you, or hears about you, you want him to know that you’re busy, vibrant, and managing. You have to show him the lively, optimistic and strong woman that he feels in love with. He wants to portray the attributes that draw him to you rather than repel him. And you need to do this even when it doesn’t seem to matter because it always does.
You never know when the time period is coming up when things can change. And even if that moment isn’t immediate, nothing will usually happen if you present your best self and focus on the positive. This alone usually improves the situation. And this is the first step to recover it.
