It’s no surprise that the art and techniques of body language or reading non-verbal communications play an important role in romance, where signals are sent and received on a conscious and subconscious level. That’s why a little bit of knowledge can go a long way and will certainly give you an edge in the flirting game.
Unknowingly, when we meet a person of the opposite sex who interests us, we can’t help but send signals. Signals from the depths of our subconscious; ancient signals that have been running for perhaps thousands of generations now.
We need to distinguish between signals sent from a distance and those sent from up close. What we do is send signals of interest and be attentive to responses or reciprocal body language. This article is about distance signals.
Showing assets
The most obvious body language is showing attractive parts of the body, through a push forward, exposure or simple movement. Women tie their hair back to expose a bare neck, wear high heels to flatter their buttocks and breasts. Men like to show off a muscular upper body or arms, and particularly the crotch, by sitting with their legs wide apart.
And if showing the real thing isn’t enough, a simple fake is often produced. Men hold their breath and pull in their bellies to give the impression of firm, hard abs, flex their shoulders and elbows to appear larger, while women wear special bras to make their breasts appear larger and taller.
These are again old behavioral signs and play on very realistic needs. A woman wants to show that she is healthy and can carry and feed a man’s child, while a man shows that he is strong and therefore capable of supporting and protecting a woman and her child. These were vital and essential criteria in the Stone Age, and obviously they still are.
Issued
Strong signals of interest are shown by engaging in sexually stimulating activities, for example, caressing yourself, such as stroking your arms, legs, or face. This translates to “I would like to caress you like this” or “I would like you to caress me like this.”
In other cases, girls or women have been known to lick and purse their lips into a kiss, or leave their mouths slightly open to mimic sexual disposition. Observe a woman holding an object when she is talking to you. You will often find similar representations such as rolling and stroking a cigarette or a glass.
eye contact
Beauty does not only reside in the eyes of the beholder, but the eyes give many signals of their own. You have to watch out for someone looking at you for a little longer than normal, turn around and look at them again, again for a little longer than normal.
preen
There are many grooming gestures that we all use. The basic meaning and message behind it is “I want to look pretty and attractive to you”. This is done by shaking the head, playing with strands of hair, brushing hair by hand, cleaning and polishing glasses, and brushing clothing or tie. .
Punctuation
Someone interested in you might subconsciously point a foot, knee, or head at you. A very effective signal and easy to detect; says “Your address is where I would like to go.”
Learn to read body language and use your knowledge wisely!
You can observe other forms of body language from a distance, such as sensual dancing with dramatic movements. The overall effect may spoil the intent, but the signs are there nonetheless. Someone might nod in your direction, giving you a subtle invitation, and someone else might show an exaggerated interest in someone else to invoke envy or jealousy.
However, one thing is important. Just as there are many languages on this planet, body language is often different from person to person. So before you judge someone entirely on their gestures and movements, you’d better look twice!
