Because many men are afraid that if they marry a Chinese woman, she may be doing it just to improve her financial situation and because it is often a question that guys email me about, I am writing this article. Not everyone has visited or lived in mainland China, not to mention dating a cross-section of Chinese women, so there are certainly some types of information you should know, regardless of the initial stages or even the stage of marriage. .
Even though I had been involved in the Chinese community in my own country for many years, and I also dated Chinese girls in my own country, it did not prepare me at all for mainland Chinese women!
Let me say this to start with, as it is definitely something you should pay attention to: Chinese women do not express their feelings or thoughts in the same way that Western women do, and this can really confuse quite a few Western men; Testimony of this fact is my email box! Even some clues and cues that you think show your feelings may simply be your culturally conditioned behavior that misleads you. Essentially, Chinese women are taught from a young age to act a certain way so that they can secure a husband, their mothers deliberately raise them this way. When they reach adulthood, they don’t really know they are doing this, especially in the case of mainland Chinese women.
So how can we find out that a Chinese woman really loves us, since it is a fact that in Chinese culture love is no a prerequisite for marriage, if it wasn’t the case we really wouldn’t need to ask this question. However, I can say that there are a lot of Chinese women who are totally genuine, honest and caring, not to mention beautiful. In China, the Chinese often regard love as an action, for example, if a Chinese woman cooks for you or raises children for you or even takes care of you when you are sick, they would say in all sincerity that she ‘loves’ you. Few women in Chinese culture would regard this as a form of deception, as in Chinese culture it is not!
In any case, so that we can make sure your Chinese girlfriend or fiance really has deep feelings for you, let’s take a look at a few clues:
If a Chinese woman begins to show concern for her health, then it may be an indicator that her feelings run deeper than mere friendship. In culture, a Chinese woman, and especially a wife, should show some concern for her husband’s health; So if she’s in the early stages of the relationship and she’s doing this with you, then it’s a very good indicator that she really has feelings for you. This is also a way that many Chinese women try to give a man a hint that she likes him, so either way, it’s a good sign!
Another great clue that your Chinese girlfriend or girlfriend’s possible feelings are genuine and that she may be deeply in love with you is that green-eyed monster called “jealousy.” Most Western women repress or control this emotion, but this is not almost entirely the case for Chinese women; I can assure you that this is an emotion that Chinese women are more than happy to express when they feel it!
The repression of jealousy is actually mainly related to native English-speaking countries and has its roots in British culture, it is definitely not part of the Chinese national character in any way! So if you see jealousy in her eyes when you pay attention to another girl, then you know that it is very likely that she has a crush on you!
