If your girlfriend kicked you out of the house, you’re probably wondering what to do next. Do you find another place to live? Do you stay with your family or friends until the two of you get back together? Should you leave her alone? Should you call her? Should you at least go get some of your stuff? What is the next step? And what is the best step to take if you want to get back together and work things out with your girlfriend?
Is it time to take a good look at what just happened in your relationship? Did your girlfriend tell you that it was over forever this time? Does she have a habit of kicking you out and then accepting you once she’s had time to think things through? If this is a pattern with your girlfriend, then if you want to get her back forever, then you need to figure out how to change this pattern.
If it really does happen frequently, then you should have a lot of situations that you can think about and decide what needs to happen so that this doesn’t happen again. Do you two need to communicate better? Need to make sure small arguments don’t turn into big ones? Does she (or does she?) need to change anything so you’re not fighting over the same things over and over again? Once you figure out what the trigger is, getting your girlfriend back and making sure you’re never in this situation again should be a lot easier.
If your girlfriend dumped you and this is the first time this has happened, you may be afraid that this is the end of your relationship. Before you decide to dismiss it forever, you should outline what needs to happen next. Make sure your basic needs are met before you take another step in your relationship.
One of the best things to do right now is to stay with friends or family so you both have a chance to cool off. Resist the urge to call your girlfriend right now and talk about getting back together. If she kicked you out, both of you will have to meet in the middle so this doesn’t happen again. If you call her right now and beg her to take you back, you will start a power struggle. She will think that she has control over the relationship and that anytime she wants you to do something, all she needs to do is kick you out. Make sure you face this situation head on and improve your relationship so this doesn’t happen again in the future.
